My Boyfriend Refuses to Use Condoms — What Should I Do? | Dear PlanBCebu

He Won’t Use Condoms, But I’m Not Ready for a Baby

Hi PlanBCebu,

I’m a 22-year-old working student, and honestly, I’m really confused. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We’re sexually active, but lately he refuses to use condoms. His reason? “It feels better without.” Every time I bring it up, he gets annoyed or says “Just trust me, babe.” But I’m scared. I’m not ready for a baby. I’m still trying to finish my degree. I have responsibilities and goals.

I don’t want to pressure him, but I also feel like I’m the only one thinking about the consequences. Is this normal? Should I just give in to avoid arguments? Please help me.

— Confused and Cautious

💙 Our Team's Response:

Dear Confused and Cautious,

Thank you for reaching out. What you’re feeling is completely valid. Wanting protection isn’t selfish—it’s responsible. If you’re not ready for a baby, you deserve a partner who respects that.

Yes, condoms can slightly affect sensation, but they help protect both of you—not just from pregnancy, but from STIs. Protection is a shared responsibility. If he still refuses to use condoms, there are alternatives. You can try vaginal contraceptive gel or film—you insert them before sex, and they don’t interfere with sensation. They work by killing sperm on contact, but please note: they do not protect against STIs. So you’ll need to consider the trust level in your relationship carefully.

Other options include daily birth control pills, or keeping an emergency pill just in case. You can order any of these—discreetly and quickly—through morningafterpillcebu.com. You deserve intimacy that’s not just pleasurable, but also respectful and safe. Don’t compromise your peace. We’re here for you. 💙

— PlanBCebu Team